I believe that our spiritual health affects our ability to cope emotionally, physically, and socially. What I mean is that when we “feed” ourselves spiritually, we have the energy and motivation to strengthen ourselves in other ways as well. Our spirituality is a powerful enabler. Unfortunately, when we feel betrayed and alone in trial, it is easy to starve ourselves spiritually: we forget to pray, we don’t go to the temple as often as we should, or we can’t always motivate ourselves to read our scriptures.
A scripture in Deuteronomy has become a favorite of mine: “take heed to thyself, and keep thy soul diligently” (Deuteronomy 4:9). Right now is a perfect time to focus on our spiritual needs. Even though it might seem overwhelming and we might not know where to start, we must do all that we can to nourish the spiritual side of our lives, because as we do, we will begin to see that we have greater energy and capacity to deal with the emotional, social, and physical sides of infertility.
Think about things that help strengthen you spiritually as you make sense of infertility. Additionally, what do you do to understand your life with infertility in the framework of the Gospel, which is about having posterity and rearing children? What are some ways that you apply the Atonement of the Savior in your life, casting on Him your sorrow while accepting peace and joy?
Here are some ideas:
Rely on Heavenly Father, the Savior, and Holy Spirit. I recently saw the following video of a talk given by Sister Elaine Dalton, YW General President, and fell in love with it! It speaks to the intensity of trial…more
Use the scriptures to enhance perspective. A good friend of mine dealing with infertility, among other very real and difficult trials, posted this on her blog recently. I think it is a wonderful perspective that holds magnificent spiritual meaning and provides great comfort. I want to share it with you…more
Find small and manageable ways to increase your faith today. This is an excerpt from my book:
“On my road of infertility, I have felt that my faith has been exhausted. In fact, there have been times that I wanted to ask Heavenly Father why He was not recognizing my faith. After all, I was praying, going to church, serving in my calling, fasting, attending the temple. I have learned that it is essential to our spiritual survival to…more