When I think of emotional and mental coping strategies, I think of those things that can help us deal with, tolerate, or manage the roller coaster of emotions infertility brings into our lives. We must admit that we often find ourselves…up…down… jerked around unexpected turns…turned upside down. Infertility is an ongoing emotional ride. I hate roller coasters; in fact, you will never find me on one. I don’t like the uncertainty. I don’t like the lack of control. I don’t like how I can’t focus on anything. I don’t like being pulled this way or that. It is uncomfortable. It is debilitating. I can’t wait until it is over. No wonder I don’t like the emotional roller coaster of infertility, right?
Recognize that you are not alone. In a notebook, make a list of all the people you know who are dealing with infertility. Your list can include good friends, a member of your family, someone you go to church with, or a friend of a friend of a friend. Every person counts. List them by husband and wife since they are in it together. As you become aware of more people, add them to your list. Look at it every once in a while. Each time I look at mine, I realize that infertility is not so strange, that it goes beyond just me, and I have a whole bunch of people who can understand what I am experiencing.
Buy some note cards and a book of stamps. Anyone who knows me well, knows that I love writing notes. I am always tasked with writing the wedding card, the shower gift card, or the birthday card. And…I LOVE IT!
Call me crazy, but one of my favorite things to do is write thank you notes. But, not just traditional thank you notes for gifts received…more.
Take up journaling. Another one of my favorite types of writing is journaling. It is hard for me to find the words to express the power that journaling can have in our lives…but not your every day journaling. Let me explain…more